INFORMATION ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Many people do not understand the abusive relationship.

'Why don't they leave?'

'How can she go back?'

'Why does he put up with it?'

are some of the puzzled questions that are often asked.

Sunshine Project understands that the 'pulls' of an abusive relationship can be just as strong as the 'pulls' in any other relationship.

We understand there is often the need to go back before a person can finally leave for good.

Domestic Violence is not just about physical violence. Domestic Violence also covers verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and sexual abuse. It can be a form of bullying, someone exerting control over another, whether it be physically, verbally or emotionally. Allowing another person to impose restrictions over time, as well as being stressful by causing a high heart rate variability which has potentials for future health problems, can also cause another part of yourself to rebel, and the results can be impulse buying, gambling, or other rebellious activities that can have negative results for the self. (From studies by Vohs and Faber 2007, Segerstrom et al 2007))

With professional help a person can turn their life around and find the strengths to make a better life.

Domestic Violence can involve other family members and is not confined to a couple relationship.

Men can suffer from domestic violence as well as women, and this can present a different set of problems as so many people just cannot understand this. An abused man who is being controlled, or physically attacked, can very often find it hard to admit it happens, let alone ask for help. Sunshine Project recognizes the reality of this and understands why this can happen.

An abuser will say they love their partner, but they are not capable of healthy love. Their love comes with abuse and it is important that the abused partner recognizes this. Whatever relationship the abuser is in, this is how it will eventually be, unless he or she meets another abuser, and then the roles can be reversed.

There can be nowhere for abused men to go, as all domestic violence refuges are for women.

This is an area where telephone or internet counselling can be a preferred option as there is complete anonymity.

Any man or woman who suffers domestic abuse does not have to endure it. Contacting a third party can be the first step to finding the strength to change things.

Perpetrators seeking help can be assisted to understand and change their behaviour.

Remember it is a crime to rape, harass, or physically attack someone.

The Family Law Act can provide protection through a solicitor to prevent any family member from abusing or harassing another.

Not all cases are covered by family law, it depends on the relationship, and sometimes criminal prosecution is necessary. Public funding can be available in certain cases. The police can be powerless if the victim does not make a statement.

There are different ways the law can protect a person and a solicitor can help and advise.

If you feel you are in immediate danger go to your nearest police station or dial 999

other helpful telephone numbers:

Samaritans 08457 909090 (24hrs)
Victim Support 0845 3030900
Refuge (24hr Domestic Violence help) 0870 5995443
Womens Aid helpline 08457 023468
Citizens Advice Bureau 01553 774719 (Kings Lynn)